82: What Lemons and Relationships Have in Common
Welcome to the Relationship Fitness Podcast! My purpose in every episode is to help you learn one nugget that can take your relationship to the next level of awesome. Let’s talk about what lemons and relationships have in common.
What’s on the inside comes out
We are all faced with stressful situations and competing priorities. Marriage, family, and parenting bring pressure every single day. Jobs, money issues, and raising kids bring pressure from all directions. You know it’s true! Here is the truth: what comes out of a lemon when it’s squeezed is what is on the inside--lemon juice. Likewise, when your relationship is under pressure, what comes out is the character, abilities, and skillset you have on the inside.
Acting and reacting
As we grow up, we learn how to deal with stress by watching the grownups in our lives. If we don’t have good role models, then we don’t understand and experience good relationship skills. Our intentions may be the very best, but we sometimes react in negative ways. How we act is our character, and how we react is the brainwashing from our childhood, whether good or bad.
Take a look, and take a step back
Start by looking at how you react under the pressure of daily stress. How are these typical reactions working for you? Are your reactions to stress bringing positivity, love, and connection, or are they driving your family apart? If every moment of every evening in your family is spent avoiding communication and togetherness, then you need to make changes. Follow the OWA principle: ask, “What is the outcome that I truly want? What is my WHY? What action can I take to get to the outcome I want?” When you are being squeezed, take five seconds to look inward and ask if you are about to drive a wedge between people. If so, take a step back and aim for connection. Take a time out, and be sure to give your partner the time to step back if they need it.
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