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91: How Your History Can Get You Through the Hard Times

Welcome to the Relationship Fitness Podcast! I just learned something new, and as every good podcaster should do, I’m passing it along to you. We are talking about how you can use your relationship history to foster positivity in the here and now. Join me!

Reflect on the good

It’s so easy and trite to dwell in the past and bellyache about things that have not gone right. The truth is that dwelling on the past won’t usually serve you well, but it will get you stuck in a bad place. When it comes to your relationship, it can be helpful to reflect on the good times you shared when your relationship was new and vibrant. What drew you to this person in the first place? Why were you both attracted to each other? Why did you commit to a long-term relationship? Remembering the fun times you have shared and the things you have overcome will help renew that spark from the beginning.

Set aside time to reflect on your relationship history

One of the problems in most relationships is that we get too busy to reflect and recall those fun times we have shared. I read an article that recommended couples set aside time each month to remember the good times, like the birth of a child, their wedding, and the way the attraction started in the beginning. This time of reflection can reinforce the energy and positive feelings in your relationship, reignite the chemistry, and ward off the negativity that tries to creep in.

Keep your relationship as #1

One of the biggest killers in relationships is not scheduling time to be friends. We have to prioritize obligations outside our family so they don’t interfere with #1, which is the relationship with our partner. That #1 relationship is the main thing that contributes to joy, happiness, and success in life, so don’t put it on the back burner. Praying for blessings for your spouse can help promote positivity, well-being, and growth in your relationship. Wishing good things for your partner brings a good vibe and sends out positive energy into the world.

***Leave me your feedback. I would love to hear how you and your spouse reflect on your good times and keep the spark alive in your relationship. Improving your relationship fitness and solidifying your relationship legacy WILL make a difference.


You are not just raising children, but someone’s future spouse and someone’s future parent. Go out there and be loving, kind, patient, and generous! Let’s help save the world--one relationship at a time!

Keep working at it,



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