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EP 80 - Ok, Bad, or Awesome--It’s All in Your Head

Welcome to the show! What’s your answer when someone asks how you and your spouse are doing? Do you reply that it’s OK? Are you tempted to say, “Not too bad”? Are you saying it’s just partially bad? Why isn’t your relationship awesome? Let’s dive into it together!

Words have power

The words you say have power. They are energy and vibration. Speaking certain things aloud puts that energy force out into the world. When you say specific words about your relationship, you are expressing the internal dialogue that is in your mind. Be careful not to use what I call repetitious “victim speak,” which phrases every comment to make you the struggling victim who is trying to get by. That person wants and usually gets sympathy from others. Do you really want people around you to have sympathy for you? Think about the words you speak!

Change it around

In every situation, we have a choice in how we respond and what we say. We can let autopilot rule the day and spout off in “victim speak” or in other defeated patterns. Your automatic responses will display the negativity in your head. Do you really want to say negative things about your spouse, your relationship, and your life? Why not change up the dialogue in your mind and the words that you say? You are the only one who can make the change.

Make it better

If your relationship and life are bad, why aren’t you doing what it takes to make them better? Isn’t it just being lazy if you know what to do to improve but choose not to do it? In relationships, we need to break out of the cycle of negative thoughts and responses. That negative attitude leaves you open to other opportunities that might “seem” better at the time, which is a very dangerous place to be. Wouldn’t you rather your automatic response be that your relationship is awesome? Do what it takes to be awesome!

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