EP 93: Need Some “Me Time”

Thanks for joining me! Everyone comes to the point at which they need some “me time” in a committed relationship, and it can be a sticky topic to approach with your partner. Let’s talk about the best ways to handle it without causing harm to your relationship.

Choose well

Make sure the partner you choose has the emotional IQ to understand when either of you needs some “me time” or time to get away with old friends. A healthy relationship allows for both of you to maintain friendships while prioritizing your partner above all else. Having some time away from your partner can actually be a good thing for your relationship if it’s done the right way. Time away for a sports activity with the guys or girls’ night with the besties can increase the anticipation of wanting to be with the one you love. Of course, I’m talking about outings that don’t cross the boundaries of your commitment to your partner.

Keep communication lines open

Have an atmosphere of vulnerability in communication with your spouse about your “me time.” Don’t cross those lines or keep secrets that make them wonder what your intentions are. Realize that the bulk of your time should be spent with your family–not your best buds. If you feel the balance swaying the other way, then it’s up to you to make corrections and prioritize your spouse and kids.

Have a relationship “of a certain age”

I’m not referring to chronological age, but to the emotional stability of your relationship–and it might take a while to get there. You have to know that your relationship is secure enough that you can spend time apart from each other without endangering your intimacy and connection. You both have to know that you can trust each other to make good choices that honor your relationship; that kind of trust is cultivated as you continue to build your relationship skills. It’s not enough to have a head knowledge of those skills, but you have to put them into practice in genuine, sincere ways. Having a balance in your life of “me time,” couple time, and family time can help take your relationship to the next level.

***Leave me your feedback. Let me know how you and your spouse are handling “me time” or ways in which you might need to do better. Improving your relationship fitness and solidifying your relationship legacy WILL make a difference. You are not just raising children, but someone’s future spouse and someone’s future parent. Go out there and be loving, kind, patient, and generous! Let’s help save the world--one relationship at a time!

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