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EP 98: The Importance of Extreme Ownership

I have been perusing through one of my all-time favorite books, Jack Canfield’s The Success Principles: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. As I read the book, I am always looking to apply success principles to relationships, which brings us to today’s topic. How are you taking ownership in your relationship? Do you need to take more ownership? Let’s talk about it.

Take personal responsibility

Jim Rohn talks a lot about our circumstances and the excuses we make. The bottom line is that we can’t control the circumstances and seasons of life, but we can change ourselves. We have to take personal responsibility for the quality of life that we live. No one else is to blame. This applies immensely to our relationship. I’ll say this, “If your relationship sucks, the problem is YOU.” You can’t change the other person, but you can be the person you want to be. Everything in your life comes down to the person you are and the choices you make. There is no one else to blame.

We can create, re-create, and uncreate

We can change ourselves to achieve the success we want to have. Just as situations have been created by our choices, they can be re-created or uncreated to give different results. It just takes one person to make the changes to save a relationship, and it usually happens that the other partner will gladly join the effort. Commitment to change takes consistency, and when both partners are on board, profound changes can take place. Think about this: “What would your relationship look like if you gave it your ALL?”

Give up your excuses and “stories”

What happened in the past is in the past. We make our own conclusions about what happened and why. Those are our “stories,” and we spin them the way we do, mostly because of how we were raised. We convince ourselves about why someone did what they did, or what their underlying motive was, or why they can’t be trusted. We have the power to change the situation to produce the result we want by letting go of all the excuses and changing the stories we tell ourselves. Would you rather be right or happy? How could you have communicated more clearly and been more deliberate? YOU have the power to change your relationship!

***Leave me your feedback. Let me know how you are taking personal responsibility, letting go of excuses, and changing the story of your relationship. Your relationship fitness matters! You are not just raising children, but someone’s future spouse and someone’s future parent. Go out there and be loving, kind, patient, and generous! Let’s help save the world--one relationship at a time!

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